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Jul. 8th, 2007
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Jul. 8th, 2007 06:46 pmHmm. My 'stalker' just resurfaced. He's been quiet for so long I thought he must have fallen off the planet/finally got the message/whatever. And then out of the blue a phone call to tell me he's been flooded up in Sheffield.
I should explain. I met this guy, Bello, years ago at an Oxfam thing. We had a drink and exchanged phone numbers, and I thought that would be it, given that he lived in London and me in Cardiff. The next thing I know I'm being swamped with constant phone calls and gifts, all hours of the day and night. He'd come to Cardiff and expect me to drop everything and spend the day with him. And anyone who knows me knows how much I value my space, that the fastest way to make me run screaming for the hills is to crowd me that much. Took me months, if not years, to convince him that I really wasn't his girlfriend, really wasn't interested him in that way - and not even as a friend, he'd unnerved me so much. Had to get really angry in the end and tell him never to call me again. He went quiet for a long time after that, but then phoned again out of the blue and acted like that row had never happened. He's phoned intermittently ever since, just to say hi, and I'm always so taken aback I end up making polite chitchat for a few minutes while working out how to get him off the phone without being rude. I don't like being rude, but with him I've had to be a few times, because he doesn't seem to understand anything else. I really thought he'd given up, it's been so long since I heard from him - at least 18 months, I think. I'm not really sure. Definitely over a year. And then out of the blue he's on the phone again. *sigh*
I think I'm stuck with him.
I should explain. I met this guy, Bello, years ago at an Oxfam thing. We had a drink and exchanged phone numbers, and I thought that would be it, given that he lived in London and me in Cardiff. The next thing I know I'm being swamped with constant phone calls and gifts, all hours of the day and night. He'd come to Cardiff and expect me to drop everything and spend the day with him. And anyone who knows me knows how much I value my space, that the fastest way to make me run screaming for the hills is to crowd me that much. Took me months, if not years, to convince him that I really wasn't his girlfriend, really wasn't interested him in that way - and not even as a friend, he'd unnerved me so much. Had to get really angry in the end and tell him never to call me again. He went quiet for a long time after that, but then phoned again out of the blue and acted like that row had never happened. He's phoned intermittently ever since, just to say hi, and I'm always so taken aback I end up making polite chitchat for a few minutes while working out how to get him off the phone without being rude. I don't like being rude, but with him I've had to be a few times, because he doesn't seem to understand anything else. I really thought he'd given up, it's been so long since I heard from him - at least 18 months, I think. I'm not really sure. Definitely over a year. And then out of the blue he's on the phone again. *sigh*
I think I'm stuck with him.
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Jul. 8th, 2007 06:46 pmHmm. My 'stalker' just resurfaced. He's been quiet for so long I thought he must have fallen off the planet/finally got the message/whatever. And then out of the blue a phone call to tell me he's been flooded up in Sheffield.
I should explain. I met this guy, Bello, years ago at an Oxfam thing. We had a drink and exchanged phone numbers, and I thought that would be it, given that he lived in London and me in Cardiff. The next thing I know I'm being swamped with constant phone calls and gifts, all hours of the day and night. He'd come to Cardiff and expect me to drop everything and spend the day with him. And anyone who knows me knows how much I value my space, that the fastest way to make me run screaming for the hills is to crowd me that much. Took me months, if not years, to convince him that I really wasn't his girlfriend, really wasn't interested him in that way - and not even as a friend, he'd unnerved me so much. Had to get really angry in the end and tell him never to call me again. He went quiet for a long time after that, but then phoned again out of the blue and acted like that row had never happened. He's phoned intermittently ever since, just to say hi, and I'm always so taken aback I end up making polite chitchat for a few minutes while working out how to get him off the phone without being rude. I don't like being rude, but with him I've had to be a few times, because he doesn't seem to understand anything else. I really thought he'd given up, it's been so long since I heard from him - at least 18 months, I think. I'm not really sure. Definitely over a year. And then out of the blue he's on the phone again. *sigh*
I think I'm stuck with him.
I should explain. I met this guy, Bello, years ago at an Oxfam thing. We had a drink and exchanged phone numbers, and I thought that would be it, given that he lived in London and me in Cardiff. The next thing I know I'm being swamped with constant phone calls and gifts, all hours of the day and night. He'd come to Cardiff and expect me to drop everything and spend the day with him. And anyone who knows me knows how much I value my space, that the fastest way to make me run screaming for the hills is to crowd me that much. Took me months, if not years, to convince him that I really wasn't his girlfriend, really wasn't interested him in that way - and not even as a friend, he'd unnerved me so much. Had to get really angry in the end and tell him never to call me again. He went quiet for a long time after that, but then phoned again out of the blue and acted like that row had never happened. He's phoned intermittently ever since, just to say hi, and I'm always so taken aback I end up making polite chitchat for a few minutes while working out how to get him off the phone without being rude. I don't like being rude, but with him I've had to be a few times, because he doesn't seem to understand anything else. I really thought he'd given up, it's been so long since I heard from him - at least 18 months, I think. I'm not really sure. Definitely over a year. And then out of the blue he's on the phone again. *sigh*
I think I'm stuck with him.